The first time I did it, I think it was almost an accident. I couldn’t believe I’d taken that cock all the way down, around the bend, into a part of my throat that had never been touched before. I couldn’t believe I didn’t gag immediately. Of course, I eventually did gag, and had to pull back. Still, my boyfriend and I were both thrilled by what I had just managed to do.
I immediately started to research, and practice. I read deep-throating tips from professional sword swallowers. When brushing my teeth, I tried brushing the back of my throat to desensitize my gag reflex. I didn’t find that very helpful. Dildos are a little better for practice, but many don’t have very much give. It can be really difficult to get them around the bend. Also, it can hurt a lot to force something down there. That realization was also thrilling. Another place to fuck. Another place to get hurt. It was almost like discovering a whole new hole.
Taking a cock in my mouth is very different from taking a cock in my throat.
I was drunk on submission, on how much I loved this new feeling. At the same time, I was intoxicated with power. I was thrilled to find out that this was something I could do.
I find flesh and blood cocks are the best for practice, if they are what you intend to mostly be sucking on. They tend to have a mind of their own. They grow, they harden, they twitch. They make involuntary subtle movements. Deep in my throat, those little movements can be the difference between the perfect angle and the one that makes me vomit.
Yes, I have thrown up on a cock while trying to deep-throat. No, it’s not sexy (to me or my partner). But unless you are naturally blessed with a total absence of gag reflex, it will probably happen to you if you try this. Avoid doing this immediately after a heavy meal. Also avoid doing it first thing in the morning. I read somewhere that your gag reflex is more sensitive when you first wake up.
(If you are into “Roman showers,” you might want to try doing the exact opposite of the above. Your kink is not my kink, but your kink is OK.)
Find a good angle. Breathe deeply and slowly through your nose. Breathe in as you go down, out as you come up. Try humming—it feels good to your partner, and it suppresses your gag reflex.
The most important thing is to relax. The most important thing is confidence, the belief that you CAN.
Coming back up is often a time when I gag. I’ve got to the point where I can get it down and keep it down for five, even ten seconds. But when I try to come up for air, it tends to hit a sensitive spot that makes me gag like crazy.
When you are just starting out, don’t let your partner fuck your throat. It won’t end well. Maintain control of your body in every phase of the movement, going down, staying down, coming up. Take it at your pace. Pay attention to your body. Be patient. Relax. You will get better at this.
It works best for me when I think about bringing my nose to his belly, rather than thinking about getting the cock all the way down my throat. If I take his cock in my mouth, then gently bring my face towards his torso until it is pressed right against him, his dick naturally slides down when it needs to go.
Watch out for teeth. I know how to keep ’em out of the way during normal cocksucking—in deep-throating, they tend to make themselves inconvenient in completely new and different ways. It’s harder to keep them completely tucked under your lips, for one thing.
If your partner is trying to figure out how to do this for you, be very patient. Be very supportive. It’s about headspace as much as anything else.
Some people say the classic “road head” position is good for deep throat. Some people like to lie on their backs with their head tilted back, so their throat makes a straight line for the cock to slid along. I like him lying down while I kneel over him. Theoretically it should be a trickier position, but it works best for me. Learn your anatomy. Learn your partner’s.
Don’t worry too much if you gag. Gagging is hot. Your job is not to lose your lunch.
Oral sex is a skill, not a talent. It comes easier to some of us than others, but we all had to learn. This is advanced oral. It will take more time to master. And just like any other type of oral, it will be different with every partner.
I haven’t perfected this yet. I can go all the way down, and it’s getting easier every time I do. It’s a neat party trick, and feels great for everyone involved. But I can’t be fucked in the throat yet. That is my goal—to be able to let him fuck my throat as deep as he can, and cum as hard as he needs to while he’s in there.
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